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I've got zero experience with weight loss, but I did recently jump on the fitness wagon. I started trying to regularly work out at 25 on a previous promise to myself but it was very hard to get anything to stick. So last year my company participated in the Vancouver Sun Run in April and I walked with a few of my coworkers. It was pretty fun, beautiful day, got to see the city, raised some money for charity, but this year for some reason I just decided I really wanted to challenge myself to run. I hated running. Like really hated it, I kept saying "I really don't know why i'm doing this" (I still don't know what compelled me). Yet I managed to drag a group of about a dozen or so coworkers into training three times a week with a couch-to-10k app I found. Others have sped up or slowed down at their own pace but I'm now nine weeks into a fourteen week program which has thoroughly kicked my ass many times over so far, but I feel absolutely amazing and now I love it. I look forward to it every day. Today I even hit a bit of a personal milestone - 5k without stopping and I am so pumped. I am now running four days a week, starting to cycle on weekends and thinking about what to do about my upper body; but the amazing difference is that now I actually WANT to do these things.
So there are a couple of things I think helped; one was picking something which challenged me. In the past I tried work out programs but mostly they were boring and moved slowly and while I did feel stronger after a month, it just wasn't that compelling to continue. The running challenges me every day and I know every day that if I don't complete it, I probably won't be able to do the next one so I push myself to keep up. When I do make it, it's super inspiring. It also really helps to have that 10k end goal on April 23rd. I have to be ready then and I am very excited to see how well I do especially as it gets closer. I guess the moral is don't be scared away from something just because you're pretty sure you won't like it haha. Thirty day challenges are great for this; try something new for 30 days and if you don't like it, kick it and try something else. This provides you with lots of little challenges; just make it to that thirty days. Get creative with what you choose to try. I feel like martial arts would be a ton of fun, and you'll meet people too. Even if you don't find a thing to stick with right away, you're still getting active. Don't focus too much on getting the most effective workout for weight loss, instead try to find something you'll enjoy and the rest may come naturally. If not, you can always add in some other things to help move it along later down the line. I definitely want to work some upper body stuff in at some point but I'm not worried right now, I'm just enjoying myself and seeing how far I can go. One step at a time.
The other thing is that I have a little support group of coworkers. I go around 11:30 in the morning and sometimes alone (there are also only two treadmills in our office gym) but we talk to each other every day about our progress, we share what we've learned from Googling and the experienced runners help out the new ones with tips and such. We give each other props for sticking with it and we pester when someone is skipping their sessions (though obviously only gently hehe). If you have a goal, and you have people to motivate you and share your progress with, I think you can find a way to get moving. Don't worry if it won't stick at first, it took me til 27yo to kick my own ass into working out. You have time, set challenges, enjoy the company and solidarity of friends and remember to enjoy life :-) If you're not happy, keeping active is a lot harder.
So happy for you guys!! Congratulations :-)
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If you want to explain in depth how aspects of gaming work the first thing is that your mom has to want to understand. If she has that then it's great, you just have to have patience and walk her through things as they come up. Don't let yourself get annoyed when she asks questions you might think are silly; that's her showing an interest and willingness to learn. However, I've worn myself out trying to explain to people why video games are such a big part of my life because they're stuck in an "it's a big waste of time"/"something kids do" mentality. Those people don't really want to learn and so explaining the details won't help.
With my Mom (who was never a gamer until Candy Crush and Neko Atsume), I think just seeing how happy and animated I got talking about it was probably enough. She doesn't need to fully understand to get that it makes me happy and know that's what matters. Another thing is seeing the community, and the difference that being a part of it makes in your life. Crossing the threshold of meeting people I only previously knew online was huge at the time. Now I show my family photos of Icrontic just like any other vacation I go on. Telling stories and sharing memories make that aspect of your life more real and brings it into a realm she can directly relate to (it also doesn't hurt when she can see other functioning adult people enjoying the same hobbies too).
On a day by day basis, the tack I always try with people is finding the similarities between my hobbies and theirs or at least others with which they may be familiar. You want to turn gaming and streaming into a career, which compares most easily to writing or other arts in my mind. Competitions compare to sporting events, blogging/vlogging to journalism, or other types of writing. You're trying to create content which others will watch, it's entertainment, that's all she really needs to understand.
I was going to respond on your other thread but never found time (been sitting on a post I've been wanting to do for weeks too haha). You need to be careful to manage your expectations with art as a career. It ought to be a hobby first and always. Making money could be a perk one day, but making it your only life goal is a recipe for misery. I've watched a lot of friends walk this path and end up depressed and lost within a few years, and not because they're bad at what they do by any stretch. When you put all that effort into something and don't get out of it what you expected, it feels like a loss. It doesn't have to be; if your only goal is having fun, it's a win every time! Also as your self confidence and satsifaction with your content/feedback decreases so does the quality of your work which makes it a self-deprecating cycle. So instead of struggling to make ends meet while you try to monetize your hobby, just do it because you love it and it makes you happy and make a plan for getting yourself the income to support it.
Understanding this and having a plan which sets small, achievable goals for yourself will satisfy your Mom, but it will also satisfy yourself. Achieving goals, however small, is a big morale booster. It's part of why streaming appeals to you, most likely. When your goal is "shoot a video" and you achieve that, it feels satisfying and that will be the case regardless of whether or not you get paid for it. There's enough pressure to make content which people will enjoy and enough reward when they do, without bringing a need for income into the equation. Work, on the other hand, is always going to be work no matter how much you enjoy it. I love my job, doesn't mean I always feel like doing it. Rare is the occasion when I wouldn't rather be home playing video games and hanging out with my cat.
I'm also an adult-in-progress, still learning as I go. But in my current opinion, it's better to accept your shitty job for what it is and learn how to be happy despite it while you take steps toward setting yourself up with something more meaningful in the future, rather than hanging all your hope on, and dedicating all your time and energy to, something which is only potential future happiness. Learning how to be happy with a crappy job will improve your quality of life now, and also later when you move on to something better because "better job" will no longer be a necessity for you to be happy.
Anyway you want to know how to explain this to your Mom, well streaming is an art and it's a form of entertainment. You want to produce content that others will watch. It's just like going into TV or radio except you don't need a huge bankroll to get started. When it comes to explaining the work side of things, it's likely to be more "show" than "tell" on your part. Show her the content you've created, explain how it holds up against what is currently out there and popular. A big part may be to treat it more professionally. If you're set on the "streaming as a career" path, having a professional appearance and treating it like a job will earn you a lot of respect from your mom and your viewers too. For example, your home office should be an office, not the place where you also play games, watch netflix and let dirty dishes pile up. This also helps you to set your mindset based on your environment to encourage productivity when you need it.
If she can see things like this, your mom will know you're working hard and taking it seriously, which is probably what she wants. You should also talk to her about your goals within it; what sorts of techniques are your favourite streamers using that you'd like to adopt? What tools are you using to learn and further your abilities and your knowledge of the field? A portfolio is a good thing to have regardless but it particularly gives you something tangible you can show her to prove you're not doing nothing. Maybe if she's interested you could even show her what goes into recording and editing your videos. Maybe you can convince her to do a "Mom plays X for the first time" video! But at minimum, you should try keeping her up to date on your progress; share with her the things that you learn each week which excite and interest you. Show her the content you are uploading, even if it's just a minute or two. Don't expect her to want to watch it all, obviously, but parents just like to see what their kids are up to even if they can only vaguely wrap their heads around it. The bigger thing is showing her that you have forward momentum and that you are happy. This helps you to track your own momentum also! It's always useful for you to gauge how much progress you are making. Your own sense of forward momentum is key to feeling good about the way your life is going, it's why goals are so important. Don't lose touch with it :-)
I just found a Golbat in my office and wasted twenty pokeballs on him before thinking of @primesuspect and giving up. I managed to hit him with only one single ball out of all of those, which he broke out of instantly. Even doing the longest swipes I possibly could, they all sailed right underneath him. What the fuck, Golbat?
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