Quoting primesuspect

I disagree.

Whenever I'm myself, I strike out. I think being yourself comes later, not when you're trying to get that first date.

When I pretended to be a cocky, horny asshole who just wanted a hump-n-dump, well by gum, that's what I got.

Well, if that is all your looking for, that is perfectly fine. It works on girls that are insecure in who they are and are looking for approval from a male partner,,, but..... Mature, grown adult women, honestly just want you to be honest, be yourself.

Now, don't get me wrong, I don't dispute the importance of what poofie is saying here. Confidence in the sense that when you see someone you like, just walking up and saying so should not be that big of a deal. Hey, want to have a cup of coffee with me, hey want to get a burger, hey, I think you would look hot in a laser tag vest, all those apply. It does not mean it will land you a date, but what it does is improves your chances, you can't just stand on the sideline waiting for girls to jump on you, you have to man up, smile, and say, hey, I dig you, lets do something together. Its not nearly as big of a deal as people make it.