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  • JokkeJokke Bergen, Norway Icrontian
    I'd still be careful, she could be wearing one of these: http://funkydowntown.com/rapex-anti-rape-condom/
  • GnomeQueenGnomeQueen The Lulz Queen Mountain Dew Mouth Icrontian
    Jokke said:

    I'd still be careful, she could be wearing one of these: http://funkydowntown.com/rapex-anti-rape-condom/

    Those have actually been proven to partially be an urban myth; a plan was created, but none have been made to date.

    http://www.snopes.com/photos/crime/rapex.asp
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    I'll be damned.
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    Another OKCupid disaster. I'm ready to quit. I met a girl from DC who is staying here to do some field work for an activist nonprofit that she works for. She was pretty cool, and really into dancing and electronic music. I took her to an underground electronic music club and we were having a really good time. Then she lost her shit because the bar wouldn't serve her tap water. The nonprofit she works for is against bottled water, and she decided that the appropriate time to get militant about her cause was on a date with me in a place that's like church to me. She came to my house and shit all over it. I'm without words. Ruined what would have otherwise been an amazing night of Drum n Bass, and embarrassed me in front of my fam.
    primesuspectJBoogaloo
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    I had a feeling the date was off to a bad start when she tried to sneak alcohol into the bar.
    MAGIC
  • WagsFTWWagsFTW Grand Rapids, MI Icrontian
    That's terrible. :(
  • ickybodclayickybodclay Madison Heights, MI Member
    I quit OKCupid 2 years ago; I have been on about 20 dates from girls from okc and they have all been bad.

    I was dating this girl from okc for like 2 weeks and things were going pretty alright until I took her to a comedy show. We were sitting in the front row and she pulls out her phone and starts texting someone. I was annoyed, can't you take it outside? But we were meeting up with a friend of hers for drinks after so I was like whatever. But then she ANSWERS THE PHONE. WHAT THE FUCK!? The comics playing even call her out for heckling but she isn't even paying enough attention to notice and then when she hangs up she is totally out of context for the punchline so she said something dumb loudly... I have never been so embarrassed to be with someone. I told her I'd meet her at the bar, but I just ran away and drove home.
    WagsFTWRahnalH102primesuspect
  • Man... I met people off OKC for a good 8 years. I never had any issues quite as bad as these ones. I mean, I met some people that I didn't click with, but never had anything go this comically wrong. Maybe you guys aren't being picky enough or getting to know these people before you meet them in real life?
  • JBoogalooJBoogaloo This too shall pass... Alexandria, VA Icrontian
    djmeph said:

    Another OKCupid disaster. I'm ready to quit. I met a girl from DC who is staying here to do some field work for an activist nonprofit that she works for. She was pretty cool, and really into dancing and electronic music. I took her to an underground electronic music club and we were having a really good time. Then she lost her shit because the bar wouldn't serve her tap water. The nonprofit she works for is against bottled water, and she decided that the appropriate time to get militant about her cause was on a date with me in a place that's like church to me. She came to my house and shit all over it. I'm without words. Ruined what would have otherwise been an amazing night of Drum n Bass, and embarrassed me in front of my fam.

    I'm guessing a DC transplant or "metro area" chic...bummer.
  • GnomeQueenGnomeQueen The Lulz Queen Mountain Dew Mouth Icrontian
    I've gone on dates with maybe.....8 guys from OkC? Only one of them ended up being someone I was interested in, but none of the rest were bad in anyway, except for awkwardness. I *HAVE* gotten some really spectacular messages, though.
    WagsFTW
  • ickybodclayickybodclay Madison Heights, MI Member
    Bad might not be the best word to use... maybe interesting describes it better? They make for good stories:

    Another girl I went on a date with I was meeting up for food with and she was like 15~20 minutes late; stuff happens, I figure maybe she couldn't find the place, so whatever. So we get to talking and she seems a little distracted, but we are having an alright time. Then she tells that her Mom is getting a divorce because her stepdad was peeking at her in the shower and stealing her underwear. Like that had just happened that week and she was late because she was moving into her Aunt's house. It was very weird after that, I gave her an awkward hug as we left and haven't heard from her since.

    I have a feeling with online, everyone is looking for a perfect match instead of an OK match that would work just as well (or better). It is extremely hard to establish trust with someone when you have no mutual friends or acquaintances either. Also I feel like I give off that strong friend vibe; I am so used to not being in a relationship that intimacy feels like molesting someone until they reciprocate. I've been told by a lady friend I still keep in touch with from college that if I had shown interest early on, we totally would have dated. My longest relationship was a month - with a Korean girl who could barely speak English. She was mean as hell, and I could tell it wouldn't go anywhere super serious from date 1, but she was pretty good looking and it was nice to actual have a physical relationship for once.

    Oh boy, this has started to turn into me ranting about times of dating past, I will say this: I don't regret any date I have been on - it has made me a better and wiser person in the end - and I am OK with that.
  • primesuspectprimesuspect Beepin n' Boopin Detroit, MI Icrontian
    @ickybodclay

    "She was mean as hell, and I could tell it wouldn't go anywhere super serious from date 1, but she was pretty good looking and it was nice to actual have a physical relationship for once."

    I have a very similar story from my past, remind me to tell you one day. We can share notes and laugh about it :D
    ickybodclay
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    edited December 2012
    I struggle with a lot of this, but I have gotten better. I agree with mostly everything he says though.



    AnnesMAGICTheironhand
  • ThraxThrax 🐌 Austin, TX Icrontian
    1:49 - 2:10:

    Reddit. Please watch this over and over.
    MAGICGnomeQueen
  • MrTRiotMrTRiot Northern Ontario Icrontian
    I think it's called "Ok Cupid" because you're only supposed to be looking for someone who's Ok....
  • v0v found my Mrs. Right on OkCupid. Granted, I did it by finding someone who wasn't Mrs. Right (but who was pretty badass nonetheless) who then introduced my to Mrs. Right by sending me her OkCupid profile... but still.

    It's just like any other method of meeting people. There are a hell of a lot of people out there, most of them aren't even remotely right for you. You have to put in the time and effort to meeting (maybe not in real life) a ton of them, be realistic that many of the people you meet won't be a good fit, and, for fucks sake, don't rush into anything. I still maintain that the majority of people posting stories like this are either rushing into meeting people, willingly meeting people that they should have already realized they aren't going to click with, or are meeting people they know are wrong for them hoping for a funny story to post on the Internet. In the case of the third situation, I'd say the person posting the story is more worthy of the title "This is why you're single" than the person they are making fun of on the 'net.

    Just my 2 cents.
  • midgamidga "There's so much hot dog in Rome" ~digi (> ^.(> O_o)> Icrontian
    I'm really torn. I know that a big part of the problem is my location, so I usually just tell myself "well, just wait until you gfto and move somewhere decent." It's hard to wait, though, and even harder when there are people I'm already interested in who just don't live anywhere nearby. Of course, it doesn't help that I'm pretty much shit at keeping up with people I don't see face-to-face. There are exceptions, and I've tried getting to know people I have potential romantic interest in over the Internet and phone and such, but, frankly, it just doesn't really work. It just isn't /me/. There's a person or two that I would ask on a date right now if the distance wasn't there. As is, I don't even talk to them regularly.

    So, okay, just wait until I gtfo then, right? When I move, make sure I go somewhere with a good, diverse population, hopefully with people I know, and possibly even people I'm interested in. Makes sense. I just don't know 1) when the hell that's going to be anyway or 2) whether waiting is a good idea anyway. So, tonight I actually got as far as making an OkC account. It exists. There is nothing filled in, though. I saw all the stuff it wanted, like photos and answers and descriptions and everything else. There's reasons I avoid social media...I really don't like talking about or describing myself, and I especially dislike the sort of things you're expected to do for OkC. I mean, yeah, it's what I was expecting, but I saw it and the anxiety started to bubble and I just closed it and said "nevermind." I guess I was just hoping for a few simple questions or something. I dunno.

    Maybe I'm just in the wrong era. I do conversations, not forms. I can write just fine, but a question about myself will get analyzed and thought about to death until I just don't even want to answer it anymore. If I was asked the same question face-to-face, it wouldn't be anywhere near the same sort of problem. All this information-age hyper-communication nonsense just overloads my circuits.

    Not even sure why I'm bothering to post this; it just seemed like the thing to do and the place to do it.
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    Midga, honestly I think that you're thinking too much about it, but everyone is different. I don't see going on a date with someone, (or for that matter, several dates) as a life-changing decision that will make or break you. I would suggest to just go on some dates and not worry about where life will eventually take you. It will all work out.

    I've learned more about myself through the women I've dated then the ones I haven't.
    JBoogalooWagsFTWickybodclayRahnalH102
  • GnomeQueenGnomeQueen The Lulz Queen Mountain Dew Mouth Icrontian
    I would have to agree with DJMeph about the overthinking bit; it's something that I see a lot with people on OKC, actually. I try and think about the site in as light hearted a way as possible-- just a place to possibly meet fun people or have fun experiences. I understand that my experience as a girl on the site is completely different than that of the average male, but I still think it's better not to think of it as a huge deal.

    In other news, if anyone doesn't mind shelling out the big bucks, eharmony is probably a better place for meeting serious partners. I believe it's the only American dating site with more women than men (except for sugarbabes.com).
    WagsFTWCantiRahnalH102
  • ickybodclayickybodclay Madison Heights, MI Member
    I paid for e-harmony once and never will again; they are shady motherfuckers.

    They will have employees/bots of the opposite gender message you at the end of your subscription. I didn't think anything of it the first time, but then I renewed for a free weekend twice and both times same thing happened, different woman, but almost exactly the same cookie cutter message.

    Dating takes a lot out of you. I have been on quite a few dates lately, I think after one or two more it will be time to take a break - for both my sanity and my wallets sake.

    Thank the heavens for porn.
  • GnomeQueenGnomeQueen The Lulz Queen Mountain Dew Mouth Icrontian
    I'm sorry-- I really wasn't sure if the one I had read about was Match.com or E-Harmony. Perhaps Match was the unshady one.
  • RyanMMRyanMM Ferndale, MI Icrontian
    eHarmony is the one that won't do GLBT dating because they're homophobes.
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    edited December 2012
    RyanMM said:

    eHarmony is the one that won't do GLBT dating because they're homophobes.

    Not true, they changed that policy years ago in a lawsuit settlement.
  • RyanMMRyanMM Ferndale, MI Icrontian
    edited December 2012
    djmeph said:

    RyanMM said:

    eHarmony is the one that won't do GLBT dating because they're homophobes.

    Not true, they changed that policy years ago in a lawsuit settlement.
    Hahah. Okay, then "eHarmony is the one that didn't do GLBT dating because they're homophobes."
  • djmephdjmeph Detroit Icrontian
    eHarmony is for Christians, and I'm ok with that. If you are a Christian, looking for a Christian life partner, that site is for you.
  • midgamidga "There's so much hot dog in Rome" ~digi (> ^.(> O_o)> Icrontian
    Well, I have no problem dating. I don't even have issues asking people out on dates. It's led me to some great friendships and relationships. I don't know if you know much about west Texas, but there's just not many people out here at all I'm even remotely interested in having coffee with, much less a whole meal. That's not to say people out here are bad or suck or anything. Most are very nice, and I enjoy chatting with. They're just not my type. I often say, "Anyone who wants to stay out here is not someone I'm interested in, and anyone I'm interested in is busy working on getting the fuck outta here." As with anything there are exceptions, but the exceptions I've met are unavailable. That's why the deliberation. The hesitation comes with not really doing the whole social internets thing. It's just not my bag. I avoid Facespace and MyBook and the other stuffs (except Instagram cause square = better) for the same reason. The only reason I even pop up here is because I like y'all a lot (except Tim. Fuck that guy).

    So, like I said then, the problem is dealing with physical distance. If I was in Dallas, I might still be dating the girl I met this summer. If I was in Detroit, I'd have asked Jackie out for beverages a long time ago. If I was, generally, anywhere less remote and conservative than here, I would likely not have even posted to this thread. But, in hyper-conservative desert-land-island country I am. That's why I was considering OkC.
  • RyanMMRyanMM Ferndale, MI Icrontian
    djmeph said:

    eHarmony is for Christians, and I'm ok with that. If you are a Christian, looking for a Christian life partner, that site is for you.

    If they had advertised themselves as that, I wouldn't have a problem. That wasn't how they marketed themselves, and there are lots of people who signed up and paid money only to find out the site wasn't remotely what they were looking for that you could make a legimate case of bait and switch.
  • ThraxThrax 🐌 Austin, TX Icrontian
    TIL that eHarmony is a Jesus dating site. I seriously had no idea.
  • CantiCanti =/= smalltime http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9K18CGEeiI&feature=related Icrontian
    You can date Jesus?
    neat
    WagsFTWkimono54
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