So, when did you find out you were an adult?



  • TeramonaTeramona Consulting Tea Specialist Best Coast! Icrontian
    bright said:
    Pretty sure that's one of Dan's all time favorite xkcd comics ever.
  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    There is something to be said about truly accepting that you are an adult. Truthfully, it was when I accepted napping and sleeping as hobbies.

  • WagsFTWWagsFTW Grand Rapids, MI Icrontian

    When I got married, partially combined finances, and spend my evenings comparing insurance quotes and starting to understand the paperwork involved in buying/selling a house. I'm soooooo old and boring now.

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    Adulting is way less fun than being a kid. I'd take homework and chores over paying bills any day.

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    That's a fair statement but sometimes you just need spaghetti o's or bagel bites...

  • SnarkasmSnarkasm Madison, WI Icrontian

    And you can go buy them! :D

    But I get nostalgia. I just think there's too much cool stuff ahead. :)

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    I agree. There are many perks to being an adult. Including being able to take a day off and do whatever you want to do. Like watch Netflix and eat pizza and no one can tell you no.

  • GHoosdumGHoosdum Icrontian
    edited July 2016

    Interesting thread resurrection. Sorry I didn't see it three years ago!

    For me:

    • When I was 12 and realized my parents did not have enough money for the things many others families got for their teenage kids, but that they were trying really hard anyway. I stopped asking for things like sneakers and yearbooks and fast food after that.
    • When I was 19 and had a decent part time job during college, but the total on my end of year credit card statement was higher than my annual salary. That was my financial wake up call.
    • When I was 30 and had my first kid and realized that no matter how much I might want to take a break, I am responsible for the well being of this other human.
    • Somewhere along the line when I realized that nobody else gives a shit how polished or goofy I look, act, or say, because they're busy in their own heads.

    Years later when my younger sister finished college, got married, and moved into her first apartment with her husband I remember she came to me a few months later and said, "Being an adult is hard!" when the reality of being on your own financially finally set in. I suppose I was lucky for my early lessons in financial hardship.

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian
    edited July 2016

    @GHoosdum you caught me. @Linc or @primesuspect, I'd like my badge please lol.

    Also, my parents struggled a lot when I was younger as well but my aunt was always there to surprise us with school clothes etc. I started working as a lifeguard at 15 and always had at least two jobs from that point on.

    I learned about how money works at a very young age as well. I paid for my gas, car insurance and bought all the clothes and extras on my own. I must say that I am glad I learned early because it is apparent in how thrifty I can be some months when work is slow.

    All that aside, when I moved back to Iowa 4 years ago I briefly lived with my parents while I found a place to live. Love my parents to death but living with them at 31 wasn't fun, lol. Independence is a wonderful thing. After moving away, then home, a divorce, Brain surgery and a lot of life lessons I still learn something new about being an adult daily. Its not always fun or easy, but with friends like you guys, adulting is pretty cool.

  • SnarkasmSnarkasm Madison, WI Icrontian

    When I moved to the Netherlands, I was moderately adult, but I was still operating in the "all my money outside of bills is disposable" - I lived in Europe! Healthcare was effectively free, I was contributing automatically to my retirement pension, there was no reason to do anything more. I didn't spend all the money every month or anything, but if I wanted something and I'd saved enough, I'd get it.

    Then I moved back to the US, and my wife, whose mother is a banker, immediately did a spit take when she realized I hadn't been contributing to a 401k, didn't have a Roth account, didn't keep significant funds in savings...

    It was fine that I wasn't doing those things in the Netherlands, but I adulted the rest of the way when I moved back to the US and realized that very little of my paycheck is now actually disposable.

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    Try living off of disability and not being allowed to have a 401k or a Roth without being punished for it. You wouldn't believe how many hoops you have to jump through to do anything about securing a future with the little they provide you with monthly. Due to surgery I am a walking, talking liability in a work environment, quite literally a lawsuit waiting to happen. Unfortunately work or no work I am still at risk in the car, walking down the sidewalk, etc. So I find ways to make cash on the side and run with it because if I ever got audited or the government wanted to review my bank accounts due to my disability I would lose disability for having a safety net. Backwards as hell, right?

  • MyrmidonMyrmidon Baron von Puttenham California Icrontian

    @Snarkasm said:
    On the other hand, I'd take sex and high-level choking

    ^what I read.

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    Thanks @Myrmidon I just snorted whiskey out of my nose.

  • Mt_GoatMt_Goat Head Cheezy Knob Pflugerville (north of Austin) Icrontian
    edited July 2016

    @Levex said:
    Adulting is way less fun than being a kid. I'd take homework and chores over paying bills any day.

    And that thought was exactly what was my "ah ha" moment of realizing adulthood. It was kind of a weird melecolie kind of moment without the tears. It was actually the first time I had ever thought being a kid wasn't so bad. But I did also think that I wouldn't have the same opportunities and privileges as being an adult. In years prior I had done plenty of things and had more than my share of rites of passage to qualify to most people. Being able to vote was probably the first things that would make most feel like an adult. That was quickly followed by being drafted, which was then followed by making the decision to shoot back at those who were shooting at me. Then buying a house, starting a family and burying my parents never really made me feel like I was an adult on their own. To me everything just seemed to be another drop in the bucket of life's experiences. It is not to say that there have been times when I would have been happier to only concern myself with eating a big bowl of cereal and watching sci-fi movies than dealing with a sick child or scrounging up the cash to fix a broken furnace. I think for most who really do grow up it all just kind of happens without any realization or fanfare.

  • LevexLevex Animal Whisperer Iowa Icrontian

    It can definitely be an onslaught of life to the face.

  • ardichokeardichoke Icrontian
    edited August 2016

    My latest "oh shit I'm an adult moment"... Debating with myself about how much of a pay cut I'm willing to take to go back to a work environment where I would be moderately happy. Also, questioning if I'm being selfish for considering a pay cut in order to be less miserable at work.

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