Received a rather rude message, looking for advice on how to trudge through the eternal darkness...

TeramonaTeramona Consulting Tea Specialist Best Coast!
edited August 2015 in The Pub

The message was as follows: (NSFW language)

"You seem like a dumbass pretentious little fucking cunt. Go rethink your life."

I have so many questions. Am a dumb ass? Am I a cunt? Am I pretentious? I would like to think no, but who am I to say? Mostly I wonder if this message warrants a response. Should I point out that, while I May possibly be a "dumbass pretentious little fucking cunt", I am at the very least not the person sending this kind of message to someone seemingly without cause. I am also left wondering if it is my life that needs rethinking.

In these cases, I am usually quick to ignore these kinds of things and move on, because you can't really protect your own integrity against someone who consciously decided that their first interaction with you would be to call you a "cunt", but as you can imagine, something about being called that just doesn't sit right with me.

So, should I amass letters of recommendation as proof of my perfectly good noncunty standing? Should I send him off a list of personal character references? Should I, as an American, refrain from commenting on anything having to do with British affairs or the differences between America and the UK, as this appears to possibly have been what provoked my dear letter writer in to action?

Should I ignore it and move on?

Advice?

P.S. Sorry for the language. Moderators, feel free to moderate.
P.P.S I would like to make it very clear that this did not happen on Icrontic!

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  • KwitkoKwitko Sheriff of Banning (Retired) By the thing near the stuff

    Ignore it and move on.

    oni_delsmertesnRyanMMUPSLynx
  • I had a couple members of this community say I was stupid and one went so far as accuse me of being a racist for having a difference of opinion about the journalistic integrity of Mother Jones.... Once someone says something so cruel and thoughtless it's up to them to redeem their character with you.... You owe them nothing, ignore and move on and if they have any decency they will apologize and work to make it right. Otherwise you are far better off without them.

    Teramonaoni_delsUPSLynx
  • MyrmidonMyrmidon Baron von Puttenham California

    @Teramona said:

    So, should I amass letters of recommendation as proof of my perfectly good noncunty standing? Should I send him off a list of personal character references? Should I, as an American, refrain from commenting on anything having to do with British affairs or the differences between America and the UK, as this appears to possibly have been what provoked my dear letter writer in to action?

    ilol'd

  • RahnalH102RahnalH102 the Green Devout, Veteran Monster Hunter, Creature Enthusiast New Mexico

    As an artist, I try to take negative comments like they are badly written critiques (which sometimes they are,) and see what there is to gain from the comment.

    If it's short, emotional, spurred thoughts, like this one appears to be, ignore 'em, especially if such language is used. They don't give, only take away.

    Teramona
  • TeramonaTeramona Consulting Tea Specialist Best Coast!

    Also, to clarify, I'm mostly just making fun of the situation. My self worth has not taken a hit… Though I do like this idea:

    @Sonorous said:
    Seems like a perfect opportunity to troll. I would ask for advice at least once a day on how to not be such a dumb ass. Maybe he could suggest some good character building books that are available on Kindles. Does diet have anything to do with it? How does a non dumb ass eat? Is there such a thing a better fork or spoon for people who don't suffer from dumb assery?

  • BobbyDigiBobbyDigi ? R U #Hats ! TX

    I am one that will immediately tell you to Ignore it and move on... unless you enjoy trolling. Understand that this person is probably a troll trying to get a reaction out of you. Don't give them a reaction. If anything, counter-troll as Sono stated. Ask questions that may aggravate them, as if you have accepted what they said as fact. If they escalate and continue to say stupid shit then you have proven they were saying stupid shit just to say it in the first place. Be weary of the counter-counter-troll though. Send a couple messages at most without responce. If they do not respond then stop, have a nice cup of tea, watch some Dr Who and forget the pile of shit ever existed.

    -Digi

    Teramona
  • SonorousSonorous F@H Fanatic US

    @Teramona said:
    Also, to clarify, I'm mostly just making fun of the situation. My self worth has not taken a hit… Though I do like this idea:

    It was never my impression that you were even slightly fazed by the message.

    RyanFodderTeramona
  • RyanFodderRyanFodder Detroit, MI

    I enjoyed the read. Much language. Many wow.

    Teramonaoni_delsRahnalH102
  • KarmaKarma Likes yoga

    Stuff like this makes me laugh.

  • TeramonaTeramona Consulting Tea Specialist Best Coast!

    @Karma said:
    Stuff like this makes me laugh.

    Feel free to reward me with a lulz, glorious comrade!

    Koreish
  • aspieRommelaspieRommel Icrontic politico Indianapolis, IN

    If it is a troll, we have a saying on the WoT (World of Tanks) forums: "If you get hate mail, you're doing something right."

    Signal
  • KarmaKarma Likes yoga
    edited August 2015

    @Teramona said:
    Feel free to reward me with a lulz, glorious comrade!

    I am a miserly lulzer.

    SonorousGnomeQueen
  • drasnordrasnor Starship Operator Hawthorne, CA

    Anyone who is capable of voicing or putting into writing vitriol like the message you posted can safely be assumed to be the problem. You are merely the most recent nearby trigger for whatever festering mental illness is running their life. Ignoring them is always safe initially; if they come back for more there are other resources available to make them go away.

    Teramona
  • primesuspectprimesuspect Beepin n' Boopin Detroit, MI

    You seem like a dumbass pretentious little fucking cunt. Go rethink your life.

    ThraxGnomeQueenTeramonaoni_dels
  • LincLinc Bard Detroit

    I am available for letters of noncunty recommendation & referral.

    GnomeQueenTeramonaoni_dels
  • Was this message from Jacob?

    primesuspect
  • @primesuspect said:
    You seem like a dumbass pretentious little fucking cunt. Go rethink your life.

    So now you're bringing your abuse of Farnsworth to random threads on IC? WHY BRIAN?! DOGS CAN'T READ THE INTERNET!

  • primesuspectprimesuspect Beepin n' Boopin Detroit, MI

    It's true... I DO actually tell Farnsworth to rethink his life almost daily...

  • TeramonaTeramona Consulting Tea Specialist Best Coast!

    @primesuspect said:
    You seem like a dumbass pretentious little fucking cunt. Go rethink your life.

    Evidence now suggests that I accidentally intercepted a message meant for your dog. If this is the case, please forward it to him for me and relay that I am terribly sorry for the mix up.

  • primesuspectprimesuspect Beepin n' Boopin Detroit, MI

    I left my computer unlocked at home and apparently Farnsworth thought it would be funny to type that.

  • primesuspectprimesuspect Beepin n' Boopin Detroit, MI

    I've gotten to that point in my life that I actually hate seeing pictures of myself.

    RahnalH102
  • I'm from Baltimore so I'm pretty much as comfortable with swearing as anyone you will meet. Still, that "C" word is vile.

    Linc
  • @primesuspect said:
    I've gotten to that point in my life that I actually hate seeing pictures of myself.

    Is this something that is supposed to happen when you're old? I've hated pictures of myself since I was like 10.

    Annes
  • UPSLynxUPSLynx :KAPPA: Redwood City, CA

    I once had someone threaten to kill me in a most absolute grotesque and painfully detailed manor because Luke Skywalker was wearing the wrong outfit on Hoth in our Battlefront E3 trailer.

    I'll trade you, @Teramona.

  • LincLinc Bard Detroit

    @Cliff_Forster said:
    I'm from Baltimore so I'm pretty much as comfortable with swearing as anyone you will meet. Still, that "C" word is vile.

    Even for my joke above I hesitated for a full minute before proceeding.

    Teramona
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