To imply that womanhood begins at a certain age is disingenuous at best and misleading at worst. It's a state of mind and a maturity level, not a number.
"Be awesome, have money, be hot, be good at everything, and women will flock to you"
Of course...
the problem is; most normal people are working with some realistic limitations here, so advice for the "everyman" needs to be a bit more detailed than just "excel at everything"
The day that they come out with a GameFAQs for getting a girlfriend will be the day that I'm no longer single. Until then, that game has proved to have far too steep a learning curve for me.
Has anyone ever heard of this little trick called being yourself? It's like the ultimate cheat code.
I always thought that the ultimate cheat code was having millions and millions of $$$$. Who needs confidence, wit and charm when you can just throw $$$$ around and get ladies. Its guaranteed! I can't speak for what kind of ladies will come flocking to you though.
I think being honest, being yourself, having a sense of humor, smiling and looking her in the eye will win her over. These traits will catch her attention and get her intrigued about you. The small-talk conversation will begin, and the opportunity will arise. I definitely think some men make it way more complicated than it needs to be to ask a woman out. If she wants to mind-fuck you and give you doubt and lower your confidence level, she probably isn't even worth that date.
Just be real. A nice smile always goes a long way.
I would recommend not talking about how you hate yourself and you might want to commit suicide, leading her to have to cheer you up, and then asking her out to dinner.
Hopefully you guys find this list helpful! I polled my roommates and friends to see what some of their favorite first dates were.
(in no order)
1) picnic
2) beer-tasting at a brewery
3) dim sum
4) go play badminton / curling / random sport you both might be bad at but would be fun
5) cheap tix to a soccer game
6) free art walk on the first thurs of the month
7) go on a walk and take pictures
major things in common:
-SHARED EXPERIENCE
these allow you to have conversation, but also offer things to watch, laugh about, be adventurous with. sometimes "doing" in addition to "saying" tells you a ton about each other and offers a chance to build a shared experience.
-FUN!
You are suggesting something thoughtful and new. if you ask me out to one of these, i know im not in for an evening of "whats your favorite movie?"
-CLEAR LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL
if i know the date's only over when im bored or want to go home, then thats tough to get psyched for. knowing the outline of the evening really helps. it gives the option of absolutely loving it and making a plan to continue and go get coffee (or some doing it) or schedule something more intimate for next time.
My (ex) roommate did this on a first date with a girl. They bought two disposable cameras, spent a night walking around the city and shooting pictures of each other doing fun/crazy things, got them developed and then swapped pictures.
...then they got married, and I got kicked out of the house, and now I live with my mom again.
So... this one works.
In all seriousness, they have record of their first date in a great visual format and featured a lot of the pictures at their wedding.
No one is less human that you, which means they have at least one of the personal hangups, lumpy bits or stresses that you do. All you have to do is assess (quickly) what your opening tactic is
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Huh, I've had no problem with this tactic.
Then they see the beard and the Gordon Freeman face and... well, it's all over from there.
It's so true! Really, I'm the victim in all of this.
Someone over the age of 18, therefore way too old for you.
.... therefore, way too old for _k_.
That's not how to date women- That's how to be a toolbox.
My advice to all the youngins out there- be attractive, clever, and know your business in the sack. Women will come to you.
But you don't have to take my word for it...
Read a book.
this man probably knows what he's talking about. at least about the bit in the sack.
"Be awesome, have money, be hot, be good at everything, and women will flock to you"
Of course...
the problem is; most normal people are working with some realistic limitations here, so advice for the "everyman" needs to be a bit more detailed than just "excel at everything"
I always thought that the ultimate cheat code was having millions and millions of $$$$. Who needs confidence, wit and charm when you can just throw $$$$ around and get ladies. Its guaranteed! I can't speak for what kind of ladies will come flocking to you though.
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Just be real. A nice smile always goes a long way.
Just sayin'
(in no order)
1) picnic
2) beer-tasting at a brewery
3) dim sum
4) go play badminton / curling / random sport you both might be bad at but would be fun
5) cheap tix to a soccer game
6) free art walk on the first thurs of the month
7) go on a walk and take pictures
major things in common:
-SHARED EXPERIENCE
these allow you to have conversation, but also offer things to watch, laugh about, be adventurous with. sometimes "doing" in addition to "saying" tells you a ton about each other and offers a chance to build a shared experience.
-FUN!
You are suggesting something thoughtful and new. if you ask me out to one of these, i know im not in for an evening of "whats your favorite movie?"
-CLEAR LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL
if i know the date's only over when im bored or want to go home, then thats tough to get psyched for. knowing the outline of the evening really helps. it gives the option of absolutely loving it and making a plan to continue and go get coffee (or some doing it) or schedule something more intimate for next time.
My (ex) roommate did this on a first date with a girl. They bought two disposable cameras, spent a night walking around the city and shooting pictures of each other doing fun/crazy things, got them developed and then swapped pictures.
...then they got married, and I got kicked out of the house, and now I live with my mom again.
So... this one works.
In all seriousness, they have record of their first date in a great visual format and featured a lot of the pictures at their wedding.
What I have learned is this:
No one is less human that you, which means they have at least one of the personal hangups, lumpy bits or stresses that you do. All you have to do is assess (quickly) what your opening tactic is